How does Vinay, a 5’ 7” guy with brown eyes, who doesn’t work in finance and has average looks, go from 11 matches in 2 years across 5 dating apps to getting 10+ likes per week? Vinay came to me to improve his profile, with the same problem that most dating app users do. He was struggling to get matches despite having what he considered an excellent profile. Everyone thinks they have a good profile, or even a great one. Let me be brutally honest - 99% of you don’t. The first thing I examined were Vinay’s prompts. He had the kind of prompt answers on Hinge and Bumble that you will see on everyone’s profile:
- Together we could: Go bowling, or grab a coffee
- My favourite quality in a person: Being respectful
- This year I really want to: Travel more
There is nothing inherently wrong with those prompts and answers. However, I can guarantee that unless you are filthy rich or look like a Greek God, you will not get matches on Tinder, Hinge, or any other dating app if you use generic prompts like these. Even worse, I have had some people come to me for tips on improving their Bumble profile while they had no prompts at all! If you fall in either of these categories, the reason you are not getting matches is not because of some boogieman algorithm, a rigged system, or because you aren’t 6 feet tall. It is simply because you are not using prompts efficiently.
The Importance of Prompts#
Here’s a simple way to understand the importance of prompts—real estate! In your dating app profile, other than your photos, the most real estate in terms of area on your screen is taken up by your prompts! Good Prompts are something that WILL catch someone’s eye, and will absolutely make a difference between a left and a right swipe. The second reason that prompts are very important is a very high effort to value ratio! Sure, profile pictures matter, but the effort it takes to have 6 excellent photos on your profile can range from hours to days. In contrast, Prompts are a McKinsey consultant’s wet dream - something you can fix in half an hour but has more impact on your profile than any other component. Fixing your prompts will take no more than 30 minutes. 2, if you use AmanAI’s free prompt writer.
Prompt WriterWhy Am I Not Getting Matches With My Prompts?#
Let’s move on to the more important question - why do your prompts suck? It is because you are using your prompts to vomit facts and information about yourself. Stating facts in prompts, like in the example above, is going to get you absolutely nowhere. Your profile will be no different from the 10,000 other people who have the same responses as you. Unless you have some truly, out of the box, niche interests, your prompts are going to end up being very generic, and that aura is going to extend to the rest of your profile too. So if writing facts about yourself is not the way to go, how do you write effective prompts?
How To Get Matches Using Just Prompts?#
For fun, I created a bumble profile with ZERO REAL PHOTOS. I used stock photos of random men, FACING AWAY FROM THE CAMERA (from here) with a bio that states I am using stock photos. I set my height to 5’8”. I got 3 likes within the first 2 hours of making the profile. I wrote the following prompts using AmanAI’s free prompt writer:
Prompt Writer- My personal hell is: Online course gurus. They are just overpriced influencers who recycle TED talks instead of dances. Their “hacks” are as useful as flip flops in Bombay rains.
- I’m hoping you: realise that if people slowed down and enjoyed things, the world would be less like a hamster wheel and more like scenic drives with an unset destinations 🙂
- Swipe right if you: are also into early morning workouts followed by fresh coffee - there’s no better way to start the day than conquering it before the world even wakes up!
What makes these prompts good? Their engagement potential. Each prompt voices an opinion, and invites engagement. These prompts not only showcase my personality but also create opportunities for others to connect with me on a deeper level. Write engaging prompts, and you will get more likes / matches. I know, I know - easier said than done. How do you write engaging prompts? There are two critical criteria:
Be Opinionated!
Opinions spur engagement more than dry facts. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to be able to express opinions. Just find things that you really care about and have strong feelings for, and express a strong opinion about it.
Edginess: To build on the opinionated criterion, you need your prompts to be edgy. To put it simply, edgy statements are ones that people either strongly agree with or strongly disagree with. In either case, you will be fostering engagement. That’s it. As long as all your prompts have these two characteristics, I guarantee you will be amazed at how such a simple thing can help you get more matches.
Conclusion: Want More Matches? Write Better Prompts!#
Don’t underestimate the power of well-crafted prompts. They are the foundation of a successful dating app profile, and with just a little effort (or the right tool 😉), you can transform your dating life from frustrating to fulfilling. Writing prompts requires some amount of brainstorming, and it should take you roughly 15-30 minutes to come up with three excellent prompts. Of course, if you are not a wordsmith, then you can simply head over to AmanAI’s FREE Prompt Writer and generate your prompts in under a minute.
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